Friendly reminder that LGBTQ+, Queer, and LGBT+ are the preferred terms for the community (x).
Friendly reminder that Queer is approved by 72.9% of the people, and the groups who don’t prefer it’s use as an umbrella term are straight people, exclusionists, transmeds, truscums, sex-negative people, and sex work critical people (x).
Friendly reminder that aros and aces are excluded only 9.2% /
8.1%
of the time respectively while being included
78.9%
/ 81.2% of the time (x)
Friendly reminder that exclusionists are in the minority and aro/ace people are included in the LGBTQ+ community by the people within the community.
Also, i checked out the survey the second claim sources a while back: this is not OP choosing the words truscum, exclusionist, etc. These are labels that the survey gave people the option to self-identify as. It’s self-proclaimed exclusionists who dont like the word queer, not random accusations
yeah that’s super important.
This one gets reblogged on main. The reclassification of ‘queer’ as an inexcusable slur is a recent development which stems in part from exclusionist rhetoric. We reclaimed it decades ago. Learn our history. You are not immune to TERF propaganda, but you can absolutely choose to educate yourself to spite it.
this is INSANELY good news. like…the amount of shit that would have to happen for marriage equality to be revoked now - for same sex and interracial couples - is HUGE.
IT COULD HAVE HAPPENED SOONER BUT MITCH MCCONNEL AND THE REPUBLICANS DIDNT EVEN LET BILLS COME IN TO BE DISCUSSED WHEN THEY WERE IN CHARGE
but it’s happened now it’s codified into law.
not by a court of judges. but by elected legislators. lead by democratic legislators(49 democrats, 12 republicans - dont forget those numbers), many of whom had their minds changed about gay marriage over the course of years, including Biden.
because you can change people’s minds and you can actually change your government. not quickly. but you can.
if you are an American and queer, please pay attention to this?
this is why it matters that you act. this is why it matters that you speak.
THIS IS WHY IT MATTERS THAT YOU VOTE.
Y'all, this law doesn’t legalize gay and interracial marriage nationwide, not quite. If the Supreme Court overturns rulings like Obergefell v Hodges, states can still then make it illegal again, and some surely would.
What this law does do is still important, however. With this new law, if you live in a state where it’d be illegal to marry your partner, if you go marry them in a different state and come back, you are still married. Your state can ban new marriages in their jurisdiction, but they can’t pretend yours isn’t valid if you do it somewhere else in the US. It also codifies federal recognition of your marriage, i.e. when filing taxes, getting government insurance, etc. It formally repeals DOMA, the 1996 law that banned all these things.
Marriage equality based on gender and race might still fall this decade in states like Florida, but they can’t take it all away anymore.
That’s not how federal laws work. Like. It’s not. That’s why federal laws are important.
Federal laws outweighing state laws. Always. That’s why they’re a big hairy deal. That’s why the fall if Roe matters. Because with Roe in place states couldn’t put anti-abortion laws in place.
This is a federal law which means states CANNOT make laws that interfere with marriage equality as stipulated in this law. Can they work around this law? Absolutely that’s how the law works.
But that is actually why you DO need to vote. Because the people who write the laws will be chosen by you, the people. And so there will be people in your legislature who will do shit like phillibuster slow shit down or bring it to a halt, like happened a month ago.
Voting is literally the only thing that gets laws in our favor passed yall. The only fucking thing.
But again. Federal law trumps state laws. And elected officials make the laws. So you FUCKING HAVE TO VOTE.
This is why I spent a year between Windsor and Obergefell married on a federal level, single on a state level, and married on a municipal level, by the way. (Austin had recognized same sex marriage sometime in the 90s, which I believe was why my boss at the time was civil unioned.) It was not a good year for my taxes..
It was really fucking shitty when I realized that as a Texas state employee, my employer was legally forbidden to offer insurance to any partner whose marriage to me was not recognized by the state of Texas. We found that tasty little treat out about a week before Obergefell hit the presses; I still remember the overwhelming relief that came with being able to access health care for CM.
During that year, I recovered from my apartment burning down and also someone totaled my car in a totally separate incident. I was offered $15,000 by the other person’s insurance in exchange for not coming after them for medical bills, but that agreement needed to be signed, physically, by my spouse if I was married… and CM was still in Canada at the time. That meant that I had to ask the people asking for signatures exactly what law they were using for the signature policy so I could figure out whether I could get away with just signing it myself, and which jurisdiction that law covered.
When CM hit the immigration interview during that year, their interviewer panicked when they informed him that they would be living in Texas. “Texas doesn’t recognize gay marriage,” he hissed. “Look, your marriage certificate is from Boston, I’ll just put down that you’re going to be living there.” Committing federal immigration fraud was a sweet offer for him to make, and I suppose it’s not a bad thing that CM spent half the interview trying to explain to him that immigration acted purely on federal law rather than state law, so Texas couldn’t do jack about us; but it would have been better not to have to clarify the details of the law during the final immigration interview in the first place. (Especially because we couldn’t afford an immigration lawyer, so we were white knuckling the entire thing on the strength of reading VisaJourney very, very, very carefully.)
Look, it’s not an issue now I’m in Minnesota, but federal law forcing states to recognize my marriage regardless of whether they are willing to grant a marriage is fucking enormous. It simplifies so many things for queer people nationwide. It makes travel and moving easier. It makes living one’s life easier. It simplifies the law enormously for marriage to be transitive between states and nations, and it does a lot to make my marriage much more comparable to my sister’s marriage to a man in terms of the rights and privileges it affords me.
I think it’s fashionable to downplay marriage equality in favor of focusing on all the other myriad battles that queer and especially trans folks are facing right now, particularly in the wake of the current moral panic. It’s common to see acts like this as things that largely benefit older, wealthier, more heteronormative queers and gays, things that promote assimilation rather than pride. But marriage equality has provided me with things I could not access in any other way, particularly immigration but not remotely limited to that. It is a headache to possess a marriage of complex legal weight, and this legislation has forcibly simplified the matter in a way that is difficult for the Court to take away again.
Just before my sister’s wedding in the summer of 2016, her maid of honor asked me about my marriage and how CM came to live with me. So I explained about Windsor, which made it possible for us to live today, and then Obergefell, which made it possible for us to be treated equally and for Tay’s health insurance to be covered and for our lives to be no more legally complicated than anyone else’s. It had been almost exactly one year since Obergefell, and we were preparing for a wedding–not mine, I’ve never had one, we received mostly lectures about what an awful idea eloping was and also a wine carafe I turned into my sister’s wedding gift–and I was feeling cautiously sentimental. I still thought we were hitting an upturn in equality and safety.
I was not expecting this blonde woman just a few years younger than me to look me dead in the eye and coo, “oh…. I just think the states should be allowed to make up their own minds about things like that” right as I had explained how much my life had been improved by the federalization of marriage. It was a sharp splash of fear-infused reality, a slap where I had been expecting a friendly handshake.
It was only a few months later I started thinking about the fragility of a Supreme Court decision. So: this is meaningful to me. This lets me breathe a little lighter. This is a comforting result, and I am uncomplicatedly glad to hear it. I will carry it with me today and quietly cherish it.
Is it enough to live on? Of course not. Is the work done? Sorry, I’m giggling as I type this: hell no it isn’t. We have so much farther to go. But it’s enough to pause from my labor, and marvel at the roses, and celebrate for a day before we take our shields up and go back to hold the line.
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People love to talk about the immortality of the machine, but I’m a mechanical engineer, so I know they delude themselves. Most machines are far more mortal than flesh.
How long does a machine last? A car is a very solid machine, expensive, precision designed, and you’re lucky if you get more than three decades out of them.
Your enemy is not the flesh. It’s entropy. It’s the death knell of the energy imbalance. If you want to live as a complex machine you will, by necessity, generate a great deal of entropy until your machine breaks irrevocably.
You want to be immortal? Then don’t worship the machine, worship the stone, the forest. Seek that which is either simple enough to never know death or diffused enough to accept every death.
do you think criminals in hannibal verse have like a reddit page of how to avoid coming to the attention of the fbi’s pet empath boy
“sorry guys, this might be my last post for a while. you were right, the dead butterflies surrounding the body were too much, they called him in, so it won’t be long now”
hannibal lurks on there just to stir shit up like “well I heard that he refuses to take any cases that involve bunny rabbits I heard he’s terrified of them” and will turns up at his next session exhausted because “there’s been six cases in the last week all involving rabbits and they’re all different killers i’m sure of it!” meanwhile hannibal sits there like “interesting, will. tell me, are these rabbits hopping across into your unconscious state also? can you feel them nibbling on the edges of your mind?”
